Sugargirl Posted January 17, 2005 Report Share Posted January 17, 2005 Ok. Here's the dilemma..there's a guy who likes me, but I hate him..and I'm like totally sure he likes me becaue he's always bugging me and other stuff and he always stares at me and stuff and smiles at me, etc. He's asked me to go out with him, but I said no. He's still bugging me and it's annoying. Alicia + Lucy, you guys are the guy "experts" on this site. Give me some advice plz. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimmiKitti Posted January 18, 2005 Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 Well basiclly he's harrassing you. First of all look DEAD serious and say, "I don not like you. I wouldn't dislike you so much if you didn't always bother me. If you do not stop I will tell my parents or a teacher." If he still does it, do what you just said, TELL A ADULT that you trust. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugargirl Posted January 18, 2005 Author Report Share Posted January 18, 2005 I will. Ty. I was thinkin' of that, but I wanted your opinion. Wow, the first topic that I've made where somebody's replied to it...how odd. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockoncheese101 Posted January 21, 2005 Report Share Posted January 21, 2005 Well, in my opinion, maybe not something soooo harsh. Poor kid, its just a crush. Maybe try confronting him and say "Look, your a nice kid and all, but i just dont like like you." (dont say can we still be friends cause OBViously u dont wanna still be friends) Then say" Sorry to disapoint you.. its just how i feel." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugargirl Posted January 24, 2005 Author Report Share Posted January 24, 2005 Ty guys.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockoncheese101 Posted January 26, 2005 Report Share Posted January 26, 2005 Yes yes WE KNOW Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugargirl Posted January 27, 2005 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2005 lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockoncheese101 Posted January 30, 2005 Report Share Posted January 30, 2005 Im probally not the best person to be giving datinf advice about since i cant even handle my own relashionship, lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugargirl Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 Well, if I was a different person, I would NEVER ask ME about dating advice. I'm not even in a relationship! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wolfie Posted May 15, 2005 Report Share Posted May 15, 2005 I would have said to have a talk with him and let him know that you don't like him like that and that it's a bit scary to you how much he tries. Hold off on the threat of force or bringing in others to protect you, because that really could scare him deeply and cause him to have problems with future relationships. For all you know, if he had chilled out and been more relaxed about showing you some of that attention, then perhaps you would have ended up liking him. Not your fault at all, just one of those things that you will never know. Anyway, if he doesn't seem to want to take the hint, that's when you get a little more aggressive. If you did like him 'in that way' at all, then mention it and how his actions have you not liking him anymore. You also tell him that if he doesn't back off, then you're going to tell others how he's scaring you and that he needs to back off because you'd really rather not have to be mean about it. If he STILL insists on not taking the hint, then tell him that the very next time that he gives you the creeps, you are going to have him escorted away from you and will keep getting more and more harsh until the problem is resolved. This means that at a library, you would tell a librarian. At a mall, tell security. So on like that. Whatever you do, the advice given was right but for the wrong reason. The reason to not use that "(we can -or- can we) be friends" is because that's like a girl reaching into a guys chest, grabbing the heart and then twisting it around harshly just before yanking it out of the chest. In short, it's like pouring salt on an open wound. If *he* mentions the idea of being friends, then you choose to either say "sure" or to say that you don't think it would work out because you'd feel too weird about it. But oh well, since it's an old problem, I'm sure it's been dealt with already, so how about an update on it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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